How to Get Back Your Man When You Have an Uncommunicative Ex

Search the internet and you will find hundredth of pages that talks about how to get back your man. Some articles give you a hint of what to do while some simply redirect you to endless marketing pages. There are identical articles talking about what you should do in general but in reality, there are factors that could really affect your goals of getting back with your ex. A crucial factor in your recovery plan is how to initiate contact and how to get him to meet you when he won even bother to answer your SMS or emails.

Timing

There are hundreds of reasons for you to contact your ex however, the situation becomes hopeless when your ex hardly says a word or fails to somehow, respond to your messages. However you have to put into consideration circumstances surrounding you and your ex prior to your attempt to contact.

Immediately after the split, your ex may have to go in suspended animation. He may have to take some time off from reality to sulk in the pool of sadness you have pushed him to dive in. Approaching him, this early is a big no. You have to at least respect the space that you have asked from him or that which he asked from you. The last thing he needs during his grief is to accommodate problems or issues you have to face together. So wait for the appropriate time to contact him.

Readiness

Before you initiate contact with your ex, ask yourself are you ready to face him? This is crucial, because if you are not, then it is most likely that you will end up running away from your ex or worse spilling your guts. Determine your state of mind prior to contacting your ex.

You have to be 200% certain that you can hold yourself together should he choose to respond to you. You have to be prepared for whatever it is that he may extend to you. Be honest about your assessment of your readiness to face your ex. You have to ask yourself whether you are facing him because you simply want to see him or are you making contact just so you can extend to him your desires?

Bear this in mind – initiate contact only when all the negative emotions surrounding your break up are long gone or are no longer clouding your judgment. You have to see to it that the strength of the pain is no longer making your eyes cry voluntarily nor your mind to go in daze. You have to be able to hold yourself with grace and ease when you face him. You have to feel confident about yourself when you see him. Most importantly, you should be able to resist the idea of not letting him go after the meet.

How to Make an Uncommunicative Ex Talk

Your ex may doubt your motives for the meet. He will definitely ask himself what it that you want from him after the break up is. Expect that your ex may not even text you back the minute that you contact him for a meet. Expect also that even if he agrees to meet with you he may still have his reservations of not talking about your relationship. Rather he will only come and meet you to see how things are doing at your end after the break up. If this happens, do not push.

Be patient. Never give the room to awkwardness. What you can do is to make him feel comfortable with you. You have to understand that men will not talk to you if they are not comfortable with the way you are going to handle things, most especially so if they know how you are most likely to react on certain issues.

This is the time when you initiate a “friends” status with your ex. The purpose and goal is simple – you have to be the friend with the good ear, a warm heart and the understanding smile, never judging but always eager to guide. Take one-step at a time. Remember that when you are getting your ex back, your foremost goal is to win back their trust, and who do you trust most if you have no one around, it is your friend.

So be the generous and accommodating friend that is confident and secured. You have to stay visible in his life but you are in no way to appear needy, insecure and desperate to have him back. Let him entertain the thought of getting back with you after you have made him feel at home with you again, simply by being friends.

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