“When you’re dumped, it hurts a lot.”

This is one of the most striking quotes from a certain book about love that I happened to read in my juvenile years. It was twilight. My heart was weeping. My eyes were dried with tears.  I felt like giving up my life. The depression is terribly at its peak. I even found myself unconsciously listening to songs about getting back with your ex with which I don’t used to do on the previous times.

I felt dumped because I am. I felt rejected plainly because I am. Being thrown away by the most precious person in your life never bears an okay feeling. It hurts. It hurts terribly. But, what makes it stingier is the fact that the selfless love that I invested for a very long time turns its back away from me. The toil and the devotion that I proffered willingly never bear sweet fruit. On the contrary, it grins evilly towards my direction.

The broken relationship that I was being trapped into made me love’s prisoner for a very looooooong time. This is to the extent that I can’t even recall the exact point in time that I regained everything in me. Everything lost. Everything shattered by an ended relationship.

You’re Not The Only One…

That sobbing emotional trauma made me wonder if there exist essential things in order to relieve the ache felt by broken-hearted fellows and to save themselves from drowning in extreme disappointment and hopelessness. And yet, reading helps me a lot in this endeavor. It peppers me with loads of information that ends my hunt for an answer in this regard.

I am certain that I am not the only person who met rejection along the way. There are lots of people who share the same feeling and experience with me. But, I am considering myself luckier because as of the moment, I can claim that I was totally and undoubtedly awaken from this nightmare.

This notion paves way to an idea of sharing some secret as to the essentials of mending a broken heart based on my readings. However, let me give you a short heads up on this matter. These things that I will be putting into the spotlight had been proven to work on numerous couples all over the globe. Thus, you might find it efficient in saving your bleeding heart as well. There’s no harm in trying, I guess.

At this juncture, allow me to start the elaboration.

The first thing that you ought to do the moment you get to know the feeling of being rejected and dumped is deal with the pain. Never leave any thought unexpressed. Never let your mouth tightly zipped when there is a word wanting to come out from it. Don’t hide your emotions. In all fairness, your ex offensively slashed your pride with those words of insult. So, what’s the sense of holding on to these offensive words? Breathe all the negative feelings out. You deserve both the freedom and the peace of mind more than anybody else does. But there is one thing that I need to warn you about. Learn to be a gentleman in this raging confrontation. Hold your temper. Take note that mouth works faster than logic when your heart is in pain.

In relation to this, if you are certain that your ex is faulty, speak it out. Look him or her in the eye and tell them that they had acted wrongly. Wish your ex well. Have the confidence. But, never sound overconfident in doing so. Have a dramatic but graceful exit. I am sure that we are on the same page. You can do this very perfectly, I know.

Acceptance and a positive mindset matter a lot in fixing a shattered heart in no time.

 “Break up happens for a reason.”

“I will feel better in time.”

These are just few of the statements that you ought to digest in the bottommost part of your heart. Acceptance paves way to healing. Healing opens the door to growth. And growth connotes betterment. Believe. Claim. Live with it.

Learn to forgive. Again, forgive not forget. It was said that you don’t have to tear your life’s chapter that you joyfully and remarkably shared with your ex. Making yourself preoccupied with more productive activities as strenuous workout and interpersonal involvement are perfect for this endeavor.

“You can’t get over someone while they are still present in your life.”

That’s the bottom line.

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